Sunday, February 28, 2021

Four Hundred Eighty Miles of el Camino de Santiago

Last weekend, after a final leg of a journey which brought me to the steps of Holy Trinity Catholic Church, I finished The Camino de Santiago Conqueror Virtual Challenge.

I started the journey last summer as schools, airports, and borders closed, when people hid in their homes and behind masks and life as we knew it was cancelled or postponed. Feeling a little adrift and wanting to fill my days with meaning, I signed up for this virtual experience. For 480 miles I traveled as a pilgrim without leaving home, and it helped me physically, mentally, and spiritually.

What is the Conqueror Challenge? How does it work? How did I keep track of miles? I answer all these questions and more, including my dramatic finish at Holy Trinity.


What is el Camino de Santiago?

The Way of St. James (el Camino de Santiago) has been a popular pilgrimage route since the 9th century. Travelers usually start in St. Jean Pied de Port, France and continue for 480 miles all the way to the Cathedral of Santiago de Compostela in Spain where, according to tradition, the apostle St. James is buried. (For more, go to my post Buen Camino: Finding the Way.)


The scalloped shell is the traditional symbol of the route. The shell's
grooves, which meet at a single point, represent the various routes
the pilgrims traveled to arrive to Santiago de Compostela.


The Virtual Challenge

The Camino de Santiago Virtual Challenge enables you to travel the Way of St. James virtually. After registering online, I established a timeframe to complete the challenge. Then, whenever I finished a distance-based exercise, I logged the miles and watched my personal icon advance on a virtual map pinpointing exactly where I was on the Camino route. I could access the map either on my phone or laptop; I used my phone to log the miles and my laptop to click on my icon (or avatar) and explore my virtual surroundings using the Street View feature. I could also “see” other pilgrims on the journey. The cost for signing up was $34.95 which includes tracking, use of the virtual map, virtual postcards, and a gorgeous medal that is mailed upon completion. Another price tier includes merchandise, but I stuck with the basic level. 

(Note: there are a variety of virtual challenges you can select, including 1,968 miles on the Appalachian Trail, 46 miles up Mount Fuji, or 323 miles along the St. Francis Way which takes you from Florence to Vatican City). Go here to see all the challenges.

Just a few miles to go.


The Postcards

During the journey, I received 13 virtual postcards describing a city or town I had just passed through. This really gave a sense of traveling and, along the way, I learned some interesting historical facts. Additionally, at various milestones the Conqueror Challenge donates toward the planting of a tree. At the end of my Camino journey, I had planted five trees that were added to the 450,000 trees the Conqueror Challenge has planted since August 2020.




My personal Rules

When I signed up for the program, I established some personal rules: every mile I logged had to be done outside and every activity had to be designated as a “Camino” activity; in other words, running on a treadmill or counting my steps at the end of the day did not count as a Camino activity, but any mile I covered while biking or hiking did.  This was something I decided to do to mimic the journey of the actual el Camino route.

Walking on the trails at the Biltmore Estate in Asheville, North Carolina.

Hiking along the Augusta Canal

Hiking to the top of Grandfather Mountain, North Carolina.


The Final (Dramatic) Leg

The final destination on the Camino route is the beautiful Cathedral of Santiago de Compostela, and I wanted a similar experience as I approached the end of my journey. So, I planned to bike the remaining miles from my house all the way to Holy Trinity Catholic Church downtown, a distance of just over 20 miles. I asked Joe to join me, and early last Saturday we set off. It was a cold morning, very sunny, and we made good time. Then, as we approached the Riverwalk (from the 5th street bridge) and just a few miles from our destination, we heard a loud hissing noise and discovered that Joe’s back tire had suffered a large puncture. What to do? Walk back home? Call Timothy at Publix to come pick us up? In the end, we called my father to come get Joe while I continued with my journey. I had started this Challenge alone and apparently I was meant to finish it alone.

And so I did.

I cycled along the top of the Riverwalk, down the ramp by St. Paul’s Church, and then up and over several blocks to Holy Trinity. The moment I pulled up to the front steps, the church bells started ringing. I kid you not. It was extremely dramatic. After a journey of almost 500 miles, I felt as if I were in Spain arriving at the actual cathedral. I felt triumphant, emotional, humbled.



Was it a Spiritual Experience?

People walk el Camino de Santiago for a variety of reasons: for adventure, to lose weight, to look for the meaning of life, to find peace, to encounter God. I always saw my participation more as a pilgrimage, so every time I set out I did so with an awareness of God, and I let that awareness take me where it would. Sometimes I was led to prayer, but mostly I was led to an openness about what I would find along the way—silence, conversation with a stranger, appreciation of nature, introspection. I also had an amazing encounter while on a hike in North Carolina with a man who emerged from the fog and gave us a book entitled, Finding Your Place in the Father’s Heart, before the fog swallowed him up again. This really happened and you can read about it here:  The Man in the Fog.


What did I Learn?

Big goals are achieved by a series of smaller goals. My first entry for the Challenge was 3.2 miles. At the time I remember thinking (a tad sarcastically), “At this rate it will take me forever to cover 480 miles.” But progression is movement, and movement (however tiny) is still taking you somewhere.

Flexibility is part of the journey. It is easy to become enslaved to a timeframe. Originally, I had planned a to finish the challenge on New Year’s Eve, but with everyone home for one week at Thanksgiving and two weeks in December I did not have large blocks of time to cover long distances. As a result, I got behind and had to move my timeline out.  When my husband’s tire puncture ruined my plans for a triumphant final leg, we adapted. Sometimes we need grace and openness to be able to say not my way but yours and accept redirection to a new pathway, goal, or even an adjusted timeline.

Stop to smell the roses. It is good to be focused, but do not let it give you tunnel vision. While a goal hovers in the distance brightly shining and calling your name, it can also distract you from living life in the present moment. Enjoy the process along the way—a wildflower field, the snakeskin hanging from a tree branch, the couple taking wedding photos along the canal, a conversation with a stranger—even if it makes the journey a little longer.

Balance. The Physical, spiritual, and mental make up the whole. Nurture all three.    

      

A Final Thought

      A beautiful part of walking el Camino de Santiago is this: as people pass each other long the route they wish each other a buen camino. Translated literally, buen camino means “a good walk, or path.” Within the context of a pilgrimage the phrase takes on deeper meaning. To wish someone a buen camino is to wish them well in finding meaning and purpose on their journey, whatever that may be.

And since on some level we are all on a journey, that is what I wish for you … a buen camino.


Wednesday, February 17, 2021

Recognizing the Freedom of Lent

We all know the story of the Prodigal Son. Traditionally, the father in the parable represents our heavenly father, the older son represents the Pharisees who live the letter of the law but not the love of the law, the wayward son represents all sinners.

However, the beauty of a parable is that it can have many layers -layers that speak to us at different times in our lives and even during different liturgical seasons of the Church.

Which is why I think this parable is also a story about Lent and what happens when we misuse one of God’s most beautiful gifts . . . the gift of free will.

You’re probably wondering, “What does free will have to do with Lent?” I know that many times Lent seems as if we are in chains . . . that Lent is all about what not to eat, or what not to watch, or when to go to church. There seems to be nothing free about it at all.

But the wonderful thing about these next 40 days is that each and every day serves to remind us to appreciate the free will that is God’s gift to us; that we have the power and self-discipline to live as free people.

The key is to devote that freedom to God.

And in the Parable of the Prodigal Son, both sons show what happens when we misuse our God-given free will.

In the case of the younger son, he desired independence from his father - both his earthly and his heavenly father – and wanted to be in charge of his own life. He mistakenly thought that freedom could be found in the opportunity to do what he wanted; he didn't realize that freedom comes not from the opportunity to choose, but from choosing the right thing. Instead of finding freedom, he became enslaved to his own selfish desires.

On the other hand, the older son shows us a different kind of misuse of free will.

Lent isn’t meant to be oppressive, or weigh us down, or enslave us; if we let it do that, then we are like the older son who merely goes through the motions of doing the right thing. His misuse of free will is that he does it out of obligation ... it wears him down ... and there is no freedom in that. He doesn’t freely choose to do the right thing, he does it because he has to.

God created us in His image, and He loved us so much that he let us go. And just like the father in the parable who lets his youngest son go only to eventually have him return home, God releases us because he wants us to freely choose him instead of being forced to choose him.

Wisdom teaches us that unless we are free to say no to something, we are not free to say yes to it. During Lent we are reminded that our free will of saying “yes” and “no” is a gift from a loving parent.

And that is what Lent is: a time to say “no” for a while so that we can fully appreciate it when we say “yes”.

John Paul II said, “Freedom consists not in doing what we like, but in having the right (or the free will) to do what we ought.”

And that’s what I want my Lenten journey to be about . . . to choose God in everything and experience that freedom he so desires us to have.

(originally posted 3-8-11)



Monday, February 15, 2021

Life Lately: Trader Joe's, Empty Fridge, Photo Request, Snow (!), Perspective

1- Trader Joe's Seasoning ... You Know the One

Saturday we visisted our son in Atlanta who had planned to take us to the Atlanta Botanical Gardens as a birthday present to me. But the weather wasn't cooperating so he took us to Trader Joe's since we do not have one in Augusta. I filled my cart and my son paid AND I finally got a jar of Trader Joe's Everything but the Bagel Seasame Seasoning Blend. Let's see what all the fuss is about ...


2- Empty shelves

The minute I entered Jonathan's apartment I checked out the kitchen only to discover that his freezer and fridge were EMPTY. I'm not even kidding. Evidently, Jonathan likes to finish EVERYTHING before he goes shopping. So then he got the Mom Lecture about keeping staples on hand in case something happens ... ice storm, power outage, snow storm. To his credit, he did have chocolate chip cookies, a jar of peanut butter, and a loaf of bread in his pantry.

(Please note that in the photo below I brought the two bags on the shelf--chicken salad and a mini vanilla bundt). 


3- Photo during Mass

If you saw me taking a photo Saturday night of Timothy altar serving, please know it was for a high school service project report. He asked me to, and I obliged because when do my guys ever ASK to have their photo taken? Never. That's the answer.


4- About our OTHER son ...

Nicholas is enjoying a beautiful snowfall in Little Rock. He keeps sending us photos and we are all grumpy because all we have is cold, cold rain.


5- Perspective

I have this photo on my laptop. Will reference it any time I want to throw a pity party.

Sunday, February 14, 2021

That's Amore

This morning in the cold, pouring rain, Joe took our car to Costco to fill it with gas for the week. Then, he drove to Publix where Timothy was working, exchanged cars, and drove back to Costco to fill up THAT car for the week. 

He didn't do this because it was Valentine's Day. He did it because his love language is quiet practicality and thoughtful gestures that can easily go unnoticed because he neither announces what he's doing nor calls attention to what he did. 

This morning there were also flowers and a card, and as I'm typing this he has gone to pick up dinner (what, I don't know), but it is those ordinary, practical gestures carried out in every day life that have a language of their own. 

That's amore. 


Friday, February 12, 2021

Friday Favorites (vol. 15): Dancing with Olga and The Boy on the Bus

It's been a hot minute since I've done a Friday Favorites, so here goes ...

1- Old Diaries

During a group chat a few nights ago my mother send some photos from pages of an old diary, specifically an entry by my brother reflecting on our wedding day. 

"After we ate we did a bunch of dancing. We danced the Duck Dance, Shout, the Twist, and I danced a waltz with Olga. The way that happend was that I was sitting pecefully when she bounced over to my seat and grabbed my arm and dragged me to the dance floor."

To understand why we loved this memory, here is Olga ...



2- Imperfect Pink Rose

it is said
a rose
by any other name
smells as sweet
but any other rose
by any other name
is not my rose
so I will give it one
to mark it
as one among many
that smells as sweet
but is mine.

*from the files of very bad poetry by bia 



3- Free Makeup

Over the years I have slowly been transitioning to clean makeup, but there are a few items I will continue to purchase until I can find a clean substitute. One item is from Lancome, and when I recently ordered a refill a wonderful merging of a free gift promo + special coupon + birthday freebies yielded this box full of goodies ... including a cute makeup pouch. Oooh la la.


4- Chapter Two: The New Girl

In my book (An Ocean, an Airplane, and Two Countries Full of Kisses) there is a chapter entitled The New Girl which, in many ways, is a Valentine's Day story. That chapter about the struggles of fitting in has resonated with many, and I cannot tell you how many people have asked me what happened to the Boy on the Bus. 


5- Twelve Miles to Go

Stay tuned ...