Whoa. This year we actually have plans for New Year's Eve! With the exception of two years ago when we celebrated New Year's Eve while cruising to Cozumel, Mexico, most years we are home with pizza, a movie, and the obligatory bubbly for midnight celebrations. But THIS year we are headed to Charlotte for a Celtics-Hornets basketball game.
Jonathan is a HUGE Celtics fan, and since Joe was able to get four tickets (more on this later) we decided to attend the game and then, on the way home, spend a couple of hours at Carowinds' WinterFest celebration.
Now, about those tickets. There is something funny about the seat assignments, and SOME of us will need binoculars, but that's okay. Timothy and I are going to have a BLAST. You know ... spying on Jonathan and Joe, eating all the popcorn we want, catching t-shirts, and sending annoying texts to TWO SOMEBODIES sitting court-side.
Happy New Year and ... go green!
Tuesday, December 31, 2019
Monday, December 30, 2019
Twelve Days of Christmas: Day 6, A Year in Review
I love this time of year, this in-between period of reflection and hope, of seeing where you've been and where you want to go, of looking back at footsteps in the sands of time and stepping forward to create new ones. And as I straddle the Old Year and the New, I begin here, in reflection ...
1- Most Popular Posts
(things I've written which have resonated)
(this continues to be my top post for 2019 which brings multiple visitors to my blog every day)
(understanding prayer)
(the story on why I wrote my book)
(resulted in some very sweet emails)
(parenthood and letting go)
(seeing things differently from above)
2- Posts which Created a Buzz
Without a doubt, my Girls' Trip to Italy Recaps created the most buzz. Because of them I received emails, private messages, phone calls, and texts wanting to know two things: 1/ when is the next trip and 2/ can I put their name on a list.
3- Top Photos of 2019
(no fancy equipment, just the camera on my iPhone 8 plus)
(and it's impossible to take a bad photo in Italy ... I'm just saying)
(Isola San Giulio, Italy)
Isola San Giulio, Italy
Venezia
4- Top Trips
(this isn't a fair category since my two week trip to Italy was the highlight of the year,
but I love to travel ANYWHERE so, technically, they are ALL my favorite)
ITALY - New Orleans - Hilton Head -
Arkansas - Jekyll Island - Virginia Beach
5- The Best Worst Poems
(from the files of very bad poetry by bia)
6- Events that Inspired Personal Growth
(and pushed me outside my comfort zone)
(writing my book)
(the learning curve on book talks and speaking engagements)
(identifying my style, updating my wardrobe, branching out)
(on being interviewed)
(on the responsibility of getting 31 people to Italy, and back home again)
2019 Girls' Trip to Italy
Sunday, December 29, 2019
Twelve Days of Christmas: Day 5, Destination Ornaments
Welcome to my newly updated blog. I've rearranged, updated, changed out photos, and generally cleaned things up a bit. I've included links to published articles, my book, and my web site. Let me know what you think!
And since we're still celebrating the twelve days of Christmas, here is something I love: destination ornaments!
And since we're still celebrating the twelve days of Christmas, here is something I love: destination ornaments!
clockwise from top right:
New Orleans, Va. Creeper Trail, San Juan, Rock City, Puerto Rico,
Saturday, December 28, 2019
Twelve Days of Christmas: Day 4, A Memory of Christmas Past
One dark and cold evening just before Christmas, we were sitting around our backyard fire pit. I was wrapped in a blanket, Nicholas and Jonathan were lounging in the Adirondack chairs, Joe kept feeding the fire, and Timothy went back and forth between sitting and kicking the soccer ball against the fence.
There is something about sitting around a fire that encourages us to be in the moment; to simply watch the flames crackling and spitting; to sit in quiet contemplation or to share a story.
That evening around the fire pit, we remembered how Once Upon a Time Nicholas claimed, with wide eyes and breathless excitement on Christmas morning, that he had seen a red glow outside his bedroom window which he was certain must have been Rudolph.
It wasn't until several years later he learned that the red glow had been the car brake lights of the guy delivering our morning paper.
It was a good memory to bring forth while sitting around the fire a few days before Christmas.
There is something about sitting around a fire that encourages us to be in the moment; to simply watch the flames crackling and spitting; to sit in quiet contemplation or to share a story.
That evening around the fire pit, we remembered how Once Upon a Time Nicholas claimed, with wide eyes and breathless excitement on Christmas morning, that he had seen a red glow outside his bedroom window which he was certain must have been Rudolph.
It wasn't until several years later he learned that the red glow had been the car brake lights of the guy delivering our morning paper.
It was a good memory to bring forth while sitting around the fire a few days before Christmas.
Our hearts grow tender with childhood memories and love of kindred,
and we are better throughout the year for having, in spirit,
become a child again at Christmastime.
~Laura Ingalls Wilder
Friday, December 27, 2019
Twelve Days of Christmas: Day 3, Not Ugly Christmas Sweaters but ...
Ugly Gingerbread Cookies!!!!
Decorating gingerbread cookies is something we do every year. Sometimes we go all out and have an official competition with a tray of assorted goodies to use (last year my parents participated and Nonno won with his Christmas Yoda gingerbread man). This year I kept it simple by adding a tub of vanilla frosting and a jar of Nutella to the few goodies that came with the kit.
Because the goal of my guys is to just eat the darn thing already, I have rules:
But let me tell you, once that photo is taken ...
CHOMP.
CHOMP.
Decorating gingerbread cookies is something we do every year. Sometimes we go all out and have an official competition with a tray of assorted goodies to use (last year my parents participated and Nonno won with his Christmas Yoda gingerbread man). This year I kept it simple by adding a tub of vanilla frosting and a jar of Nutella to the few goodies that came with the kit.
Because the goal of my guys is to just eat the darn thing already, I have rules:
1- To eat, you must decorate.
2- You can't eat until everyone is finished decorating.
3- And you cannot eat until I've taken a photo.
But let me tell you, once that photo is taken ...
CHOMP.
CHOMP.
Thursday, December 26, 2019
Twelve Days of Christmas: Day 2, We Have Mail
During the Advent and Christmas seasons, our mail carrier is one of my very favorite people. His daily visit brings excitement and anticipation in the form of actual mail. Addressed to us personally. With a real stamp on an actual envelope.
This time of year reminds me that letter-writing is not a lost art after all; that it's always there, dormant, ready to resurface on a surge of Christmas spirit.
And the treasures each card holds! Inside there may be blessings, good wishes, family photos, shared memories, or even a funny joke. Once we received a card someone forgot to sign, and we had ever so much fun trying to guess who sent the red cardinal on the holly branch. Was it Uncle David? Aunt Ann? Our realtor? We never did find out.
It is a wonderful tradition, this exchanging of Christmas cards, for each one reminds us that at some moment in time someone out there was thinking of us when they signed the card, wrote our name on the envelope, and placed a Christmas stamp in the upper right hand corner.
On a closet door which straddles the family room and kitchen, I tape up every single card we receive (along with Christmas family photos we've taken through the years). And because the location is such that we pass it numerous times of day, one of us will often stop to look, read, remember.
Wednesday, December 25, 2019
Twelve Days of Christmas: Day 1, Missing Him Already
Before nestling all snug in our beds on Christmas Eve, we set our alarms for an early morning wake-up call so we would have time to celebrate Christmas before Nicholas started his 9-hour drive back to Little Rock, Arkansas.
It was wonderful having Nicholas home for 11 days (I love having all my guys home!) but since he was scheduled to work December 26 he needed to drive home on Christmas day.
So bright and early on Christmas morning (so early that we almost discovered Santa scrambling back up the chimney), we gathered in our family room to exchange gifts and have our traditional Christmas breakfast of homemade sticky buns. Then, we helped Nicholas pack his car and we watched him drive away.
It was 7:30 a.m.
When we trooped back inside Jonathan and Timothy looked through their stuff, Joe organized his new tools, and I curled up on the couch with a cappuccino. It was different being done so early, and I missed seeing Nicholas and Jonathan bent over one of their strategy board games on Christmas afternoon, but I know we are entering a new stage of our lives in which traditions of old will always be honored, but perhaps in different ways. Maybe we will even create new ones.
Nine hours later Nicholas called to say he arrived safely. He had already unloaded his car, set up the Fontanini nativity set he received as one of his gifts, and was looking forward to celebrating Christmas with his girlfriend.
And curled up on the couch (no cappuccino) watching a Star Wars movie with the rest of my guys, I embraced this Christmas day which, while a little different, had been so, so good.
Nicholas with Nonna and Nonno, Christmas Eve
Saturday, December 21, 2019
Christmas Hope
All the boys are home for the holidays, and since there is nothing that makes me happier than a full house ... bring on the figgy pudding! (Or rather, the Panettone!)
Before I sign off for a few days I'd like to say this: While we are looking forward to the next few days, I understand that many of you are not. There is a lot of heartbreak out there and not everyone looks forward to a Hallmark Christmas. But if there is one thing this season offers it's hope, which can be found in the unlikeliest of places ... even in a stable.
God bless, everyone.
The Novajosky Family
Thursday, December 19, 2019
Fifteen Minutes at the Mall
Today, perfectly nestled between our anniversary and Christmas, is Joe's birthday. To celebrate I'm sharing one of my favorite posts about Joe. He may not be a mall-kind-of-guy, but he's a watch-a-movie-on-a-rainy-afternoon-kind-of-guy ... and that's just fine with me. Happy Merry Birthday Joe! And just so you know, this year your birthday cake does NOT say Merry Christmas!
Last night Joe announced that he needed to go to the mall.
STOP. Joe never wants to go to the mall. Never, ever. He HATES the mall. In his mind the mall should have been one of Dante's circles of Hell. But he had a Dick's Sporting Goods gift card and decided that Friday, his day off, would be the perfect time to use it.
Who was I to argue? I was not letting this golden opportunity slip by.
So after the boys left for school this morning, we got ready to go to the mall. I was ridiculously excited ... which is a little pathetic, I know, but it was a date! And not just any date ... a MALL date. Like we were in high school, or something! For the occasion I even straightened my hair and wore TWO coats of mascara.
We got to the mall shortly after it opened, and after coordinating our cell phones so we could meet later, he headed for Dick's to purchase some golf stuff while I headed to Macy's with a fistful of coupons.
Fifteen minutes later he calls and asks me if I'm done.
"Done with what?" I asked, a little breathlessly because I was trying on jeans. "Aren't you at Dick's?"
"I'm done. I got a golf hat, a golf glove, and a dozen golf balls," he replied. "Do you want me to drive around and pick you up at Macy's?"
Fifteen minutes. He purchased all that in fifteen minutes and he was done. Finito.
Evidently his idea of a mall outing was not my idea of a mall outing. At all. Not even close. And because it was 10:20 in the morning it wasn't like we could go and have lunch, either.
But all was not lost. On the way to meet him I quickly ran into JCPenny with a $10 coupon that was expiring soon (the kind with no minimum purchase required!) and five minutes later I had a brand new pair of earrings that, after the sale, special promotion and my $10 coupon, cost me $1.30.
And I wore them all the way home.
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Last night Joe announced that he needed to go to the mall.
STOP. Joe never wants to go to the mall. Never, ever. He HATES the mall. In his mind the mall should have been one of Dante's circles of Hell. But he had a Dick's Sporting Goods gift card and decided that Friday, his day off, would be the perfect time to use it.
Who was I to argue? I was not letting this golden opportunity slip by.
So after the boys left for school this morning, we got ready to go to the mall. I was ridiculously excited ... which is a little pathetic, I know, but it was a date! And not just any date ... a MALL date. Like we were in high school, or something! For the occasion I even straightened my hair and wore TWO coats of mascara.
We got to the mall shortly after it opened, and after coordinating our cell phones so we could meet later, he headed for Dick's to purchase some golf stuff while I headed to Macy's with a fistful of coupons.
Fifteen minutes later he calls and asks me if I'm done.
"Done with what?" I asked, a little breathlessly because I was trying on jeans. "Aren't you at Dick's?"
"I'm done. I got a golf hat, a golf glove, and a dozen golf balls," he replied. "Do you want me to drive around and pick you up at Macy's?"
Fifteen minutes. He purchased all that in fifteen minutes and he was done. Finito.
Evidently his idea of a mall outing was not my idea of a mall outing. At all. Not even close. And because it was 10:20 in the morning it wasn't like we could go and have lunch, either.
But all was not lost. On the way to meet him I quickly ran into JCPenny with a $10 coupon that was expiring soon (the kind with no minimum purchase required!) and five minutes later I had a brand new pair of earrings that, after the sale, special promotion and my $10 coupon, cost me $1.30.
And I wore them all the way home.
Wednesday, December 18, 2019
Tiny Christmas Party Favors
Supplies
tiny jars of Nutella
cellophane bags
assortment of Italian chocolates
gift tags (printed from Pinterest)
Instructions
place everything in the cellophane bag
tie with ribbon
Tuesday, December 17, 2019
Sunday, December 15, 2019
Speak to Me Sunday: The Two-Word Commitment
Twenty-nine years ago Joe and I stood before God and said I Do.
And we've been saying I Do ever since ...
to good days, bad days, and in-between days;
to romance and candlelight
and the reality of bills and finances;
to parenthood and uncharted waters--
snuggling babies, wayward toddlers,
surly teens, and amazing young men;
to the magic of playing Santa Claus
and the nervousness of being a driving instructor;
to thoughtfulness, respect, I love you,
and I'm sorry and forgive me.
Every day we say I Do to all of it.
And last night, those two simple words were manifested in the laughter and love we felt as we sat around our kitchen table playing board games with our sons.
And we've been saying I Do ever since ...
to good days, bad days, and in-between days;
to romance and candlelight
and the reality of bills and finances;
to parenthood and uncharted waters--
snuggling babies, wayward toddlers,
surly teens, and amazing young men;
to the magic of playing Santa Claus
and the nervousness of being a driving instructor;
to thoughtfulness, respect, I love you,
and I'm sorry and forgive me.
Every day we say I Do to all of it.
And last night, those two simple words were manifested in the laughter and love we felt as we sat around our kitchen table playing board games with our sons.
Friday, December 13, 2019
Christmas Caesura
early morning darkness and blustery weather
humming refrigerator, glowing tree lights, and steaming mug of coffee
Thursday, December 12, 2019
Christmas Finds ... Big and Small
One mini glass jar of Nutella (giant one for scale).
It would make a nice stocking stuffer.
One giant cardboard Bialetti with inside a panettone,
coffee, and chocolates (original one for scale).
Not a stocking stuffer but still ... just so darn clever.
Tuesday, December 10, 2019
Guess the Number of Homemade Tortellini
It was a grey, blustering morning and as we listened to Madama Butterfly sing "Un bel di vedremo," my father rolled the dough into thin sheets, my mother and I folded the tortellini, and our youngest son lined them up with military precision on the countertop to dry.
An Ocean, an Airplane, and Two Countries Full of Kisses (Ch. 7, Opera in the Kitchen)
This past weekend, just like we've done every year since the boys were young, we gathered in my parents' kitchen to make homemade tortellini for our Christmas dinner. It's a long-standing tradition in our family, and one which generates many precious memories.
A few days earlier, on our family WhatsApp page, there was an ongoing bet to see how many tortellini we would make this year. Here were some of the guesses:
Now, you're probably thinking ... whoa. All those numbers are high. That's an awful lot of tortellini.
And you would be correct. But we have a large family that gathers at Christmas, and we serve tortellini both in a savory broth and a cream sauce, so we make a lot (and leftovers are GREAT).
There is no denying that it takes a lot of work--buying the ingredients, cooking the filling (made with chicken, pork loin, mortadella, and prosciutto), preparing the pasta dough, rolling the dough, cutting it into squares, filling each one, and then folding each one by hand. Then, because we make the tortellini several weeks before Christmas, they are left to dry and then placed in the freezer.
This year the tortellini making involved three days (working a few hours each day). The first day I helped my mother cook and prepare the filling, on the second day we made about 500 tortellini, and since we had some leftover filling my mother rolled some more pasta dough and I returned for a third day to help make a few more.
So what's the GRAND TOTAL?
An Ocean, an Airplane, and Two Countries Full of Kisses (Ch. 7, Opera in the Kitchen)
This past weekend, just like we've done every year since the boys were young, we gathered in my parents' kitchen to make homemade tortellini for our Christmas dinner. It's a long-standing tradition in our family, and one which generates many precious memories.
A few days earlier, on our family WhatsApp page, there was an ongoing bet to see how many tortellini we would make this year. Here were some of the guesses:
Paola -- 600
Tiziana -- 751
Maria -- 843
Luciano -- 958
Martha -- 300
Laura -- 654
Now, you're probably thinking ... whoa. All those numbers are high. That's an awful lot of tortellini.
And you would be correct. But we have a large family that gathers at Christmas, and we serve tortellini both in a savory broth and a cream sauce, so we make a lot (and leftovers are GREAT).
There is no denying that it takes a lot of work--buying the ingredients, cooking the filling (made with chicken, pork loin, mortadella, and prosciutto), preparing the pasta dough, rolling the dough, cutting it into squares, filling each one, and then folding each one by hand. Then, because we make the tortellini several weeks before Christmas, they are left to dry and then placed in the freezer.
This year the tortellini making involved three days (working a few hours each day). The first day I helped my mother cook and prepare the filling, on the second day we made about 500 tortellini, and since we had some leftover filling my mother rolled some more pasta dough and I returned for a third day to help make a few more.
So what's the GRAND TOTAL?
812
(and since I won the bet I get ALL the leftovers ;-)
folded, 812 tortellini
my mother, preparing the filling
my dad, rolling the pasta dough
my parents received these as wedding gifts
over 50 years ago
in the past, Timothy helping Nonno
(I love Timothy's Duplo tower on the counter)
in the past, folding tortellin with my mom
Sunday, December 8, 2019
Speak to Me Sunday: Actively Waiting (Second Sunday in Advent)
This week I came across a YouTube video of Fr. Manno giving a lesson on what we should be doing during Advent. His answer? We wait. But then he explained the difference between active vs. inactive waiting, and how during Advent we should be actively waiting; that is, as we wait for the Christ Child we are not meant to sit around doing nothing. Instead, we prepare.
His commentary reminded me of the motto verso l'alto (towards the height), words often associated with the life of Blessed Pier Giorgio Frassati. While on one level the words refer to our earthly struggle as we climb toward the summit of eternal life, they are also a rallying cry for what we do while climbing.
For we should always be doing something ...
Two summers ago I climbed a mountain.
His commentary reminded me of the motto verso l'alto (towards the height), words often associated with the life of Blessed Pier Giorgio Frassati. While on one level the words refer to our earthly struggle as we climb toward the summit of eternal life, they are also a rallying cry for what we do while climbing.
For we should always be doing something ...
Two summers ago I climbed a mountain.
I was in Breckenridge, Colorado with three friends, and early one morning we stood at the beginning of a 3.4 mile hiking trail that went straight up a mountain to Mohawk Lake.
Over dirt trails, rocky crevices, and overgrown roots we climbed up and up. We crossed streams, walked through meadows, and climbed over logs. We passed other hikers going up and said hello to hikers going back down. We made a wrong turn, which turned our 3.4 miles of going up into 4.2 miles of going up. We were tired. Sometimes it hurt to breathe. We laughed, we encouraged each other, we stopped to take in the breathtaking views. During the last mile, the trail turned rocky, the ascent became even steeper, and we weren’t so much hiking as looking for footholds and pulling ourselves up and over large boulders.
Then, after almost four hours of hiking and climbing, after four hours of not being able to see the peak but nevertheless continuing because we knew it was there, after all that time of looking upward as we climbed, we arrived. Finally. And the feeling was indescribable.
There was exuberance, yes, and certainly a feeling of accomplishment. But mostly I felt humbled to have worked, and struggled, and climbed, and sweated in order to finally arrive exactly where we had been heading. And as I caught my breath and drank in the view, I thought of a prayer card I had with a photo of Blessed Pier Giorgio Frassati climbing a mountain with the words Verso l’Alto written in the corner.
These Italian words were scribbled onto a photograph in 1925 by Blessed Pier Giorgio Frassati, and they have become representative of his earthly life while striving to reach the summit of eternal life. Translated literally, verso is a preposition meaning towards – not in action, but in orientation – as in, what are we heading towards? Alto, on the other hand, is a noun meaning height. So while the words Verso l’Alto mean towards the height, Pier Giorgio Frassati showed us that they don’t so much refer to the physical act of climbing as what we are doing while climbing; in other words, they refer to the Christian’s spiritual journey – and all we do while on that journey – as we strive to reach the height of heaven.
So, as I stood on the shores of Mohawk Lake on top of that mountain, as I breathed in the crisp mountain air and delighted in the indescribable beauty, I also felt restlessness – a longing for more. I remembered how Carl Frederick Buechner, in his book Listening to Your Life, said that the unease (or incompleteness) we may feel is the sound God’s voice makes in a world that has explained him away.
And that’s why I felt humbled because I knew there are more mountains to scale. God is forever calling us to him and in our spiritual journey one can move forward or backward, but one cannot stand still.
We are meant to be heading somewhere; we are meant to strive, and climb, and struggle. We will have moments of rest, but when we rise we will, like the Wise Men following that star, look up and continue climbing …
And that’s why I felt humbled because I knew there are more mountains to scale. God is forever calling us to him and in our spiritual journey one can move forward or backward, but one cannot stand still.
We are meant to be heading somewhere; we are meant to strive, and climb, and struggle. We will have moments of rest, but when we rise we will, like the Wise Men following that star, look up and continue climbing …
verso l’alto.
Pier Giorgio wrote the words verso l'alto on the back of a photo
taken by a fellow climber on June 7, 1925.
Friday, December 6, 2019
Spreading a Little Christmas Cheer
Yesterday I set out a basket of snacks outside our front door. I cannot take credit for this idea, and I can't even remember where I first saw it, but it's an idea that is meant to be shared. Have a happy day everyone!
And because we are all so busy, I've also included some decorating ideas that cost NOTHING due to a little foraging inside and outside.
This year Christmas is all about grabbing my clippers and foraging -- in the woods behind our house, in my parents' back yard, at a secret location in town. Easy, beautiful, and free.
And because we are all so busy, I've also included some decorating ideas that cost NOTHING due to a little foraging inside and outside.
This year Christmas is all about grabbing my clippers and foraging -- in the woods behind our house, in my parents' back yard, at a secret location in town. Easy, beautiful, and free.
front door wreath
1 flat basket
an assortment of fresh greenery
Thursday, December 5, 2019
In Which I Lecture My Guys About Football
This past Saturday, I lectured my guys.
About too much football. (And yes, I think there is such a thing.)
On Saturday morning my guys woke up and watched pregame shows. Then they watched football all afternoon, pausing only for lunch (which I provided). Late in the afternoon we attended Saturday night Mass, but the guys huddled in the car until the last minute listening to the Penn State game, and as soon as church ended and as we were walking to our car, they whipped out their phones to check the score. A quick dinner, and then it was football the rest of the night.
Whenever I walked in to tell them something, or ask a question, they would do that football watching thing: you know, where they turn their heads in my direction (as if they were listening) but keep their eyes glued to the television.
Football. All. day. long.
And so I sat them down and gave them a lecture. I used words like balance, stressed the importance of taking breaks, and pointed out that there are others in the family (uh, that would be me) who would like to do other things (like, have a conversation) (or go for a walk) (or watch a movie).
I think they got my point because they all grinned ... you know, like guilty little boys caught with their hands in the cookie jar.
Later, as we were reading in bed, Joe said that he would watch a Hallmark Christmas movie with me the next day.
STOP. IT.
Why, just that afternoon I had recorded the Hallmark movie, Christmas in Rome. And the thought of us watching a charming, but predictable, chick flick made me smile. This was going to be good. I might even make some hot chocolate. With marshmallows.
EXCEPT.
Except we woke up Sunday morning and NO CABLE. At all. No DVR. No nothing. When we called our cable company they said they'd send someone out on Monday (late afternoon).
So, I'm not really sure what the moral of this story is other than when Bia lectures ... things happen.
About too much football. (And yes, I think there is such a thing.)
On Saturday morning my guys woke up and watched pregame shows. Then they watched football all afternoon, pausing only for lunch (which I provided). Late in the afternoon we attended Saturday night Mass, but the guys huddled in the car until the last minute listening to the Penn State game, and as soon as church ended and as we were walking to our car, they whipped out their phones to check the score. A quick dinner, and then it was football the rest of the night.
Whenever I walked in to tell them something, or ask a question, they would do that football watching thing: you know, where they turn their heads in my direction (as if they were listening) but keep their eyes glued to the television.
Football. All. day. long.
And so I sat them down and gave them a lecture. I used words like balance, stressed the importance of taking breaks, and pointed out that there are others in the family (uh, that would be me) who would like to do other things (like, have a conversation) (or go for a walk) (or watch a movie).
I think they got my point because they all grinned ... you know, like guilty little boys caught with their hands in the cookie jar.
Later, as we were reading in bed, Joe said that he would watch a Hallmark Christmas movie with me the next day.
STOP. IT.
Why, just that afternoon I had recorded the Hallmark movie, Christmas in Rome. And the thought of us watching a charming, but predictable, chick flick made me smile. This was going to be good. I might even make some hot chocolate. With marshmallows.
EXCEPT.
Except we woke up Sunday morning and NO CABLE. At all. No DVR. No nothing. When we called our cable company they said they'd send someone out on Monday (late afternoon).
So, I'm not really sure what the moral of this story is other than when Bia lectures ... things happen.
Wednesday, December 4, 2019
Eating and Brushing and Brushing ... Oh My!
That’s life with Invisalign.
Just to be clear, after every meal not only do I brush my teeth, but I also
brush my tray (or retainer, or whatever it’s called).
And yes, before bedtime I have to brush TWICE...once
with toothpaste, and once with Gel-Kam.
When I realized that my dental hygiene was more involved (all that brushing, brushing, brushing) I
went to Target and bought a cute ceramic mug to hold two toothbrushes, two
different kinds of toothpaste, floss, and my tray case.
I’ve also decided there will be NO MORE SNACKING between meals because I’m not taking
out a tray (or retainer) unless I absolutely have to. Otherwise I have to brush my teeth. Again.
But I’m not complaining. My teeth are straightening and I’m
losing weight.
That’s called a win-win situation.
Tuesday, December 3, 2019
One Year
Yesterday marked one year when I tiptoed into the publishing waters with my book, An Ocean, an Airplane, and Two Countries Full of Kisses.
When I say tiptoed, that's exactly what I meant. If you want to feel vulnerable, just create something (a piece of artwork, a book), put your name on it, and put it out there for scrutiny. Then, as you wait to see how it will be received, you worry about getting feedback just as much as you worry about NOT getting feedback. And oh! the questions we weave when we are trying to please: Will my relatives like it? Will people (outside my family) read it? Will people buy it? Did I share too much, or not enough? Should I do this, or that, or nothing at all to promote it?
But you know what? When I tiptoed into those waters I never imagined being carried on a current to new places and given the opportunity to meet new people. Book talks, emails from strangers, messages from friends, reviews and blurbs (Augusta Magazine "Hot off the Press", Ambassador Magazine "Italian American Reader), interviews (Voyage Atlanta, My Modern Italian Network) ... none of this would have happened if I had stayed on the shore.
And that is probably what I am most proud of--taking a chance, venturing into the unknown, being brave when I felt anything but.
So here I am a year out, and in the words of James Brown ... I feel good! And grateful. And humbled.
When I say tiptoed, that's exactly what I meant. If you want to feel vulnerable, just create something (a piece of artwork, a book), put your name on it, and put it out there for scrutiny. Then, as you wait to see how it will be received, you worry about getting feedback just as much as you worry about NOT getting feedback. And oh! the questions we weave when we are trying to please: Will my relatives like it? Will people (outside my family) read it? Will people buy it? Did I share too much, or not enough? Should I do this, or that, or nothing at all to promote it?
But you know what? When I tiptoed into those waters I never imagined being carried on a current to new places and given the opportunity to meet new people. Book talks, emails from strangers, messages from friends, reviews and blurbs (Augusta Magazine "Hot off the Press", Ambassador Magazine "Italian American Reader), interviews (Voyage Atlanta, My Modern Italian Network) ... none of this would have happened if I had stayed on the shore.
And that is probably what I am most proud of--taking a chance, venturing into the unknown, being brave when I felt anything but.
So here I am a year out, and in the words of James Brown ... I feel good! And grateful. And humbled.
Christmas is around the corner, so here are several ways you can get a copy:
1- For locals, I keep copies here at home. And I'll even sign it for you ;-)
2- Amazon
4- And if you're flying out of The Augusta Regional Airport, pick up a copy at The Landings Gift Shop
Such kind reviews, notes, and messages!
Whenever I give a book talk, I always begin with the story of a fountain,
for generations of our family have stood in front of this fountain in Verona.
Monday, November 25, 2019
The Horrible, No Good, Very Bad Thanksgiving Idea
This year I am hosting Thanksgiving (for twenty-two) and I had a horrible, no good, very bad idea.
It's such a horrible, no good, very bad idea that it has me smiling. A lot.
Here's that idea: a fun, family Thanksgiving photo booth. For goofy photos, family photos, and everything in between.
I can hear my guys groaning already.
But look ... the weather will be a delightful 67 degrees, the trees are in full autumnal glory, and we will be eating outside under a canopy of red, brown, yellow, and orange. So really, how perfect would a Thanksgiving photo booth be?
Am I right, or am I right? (Just don't ask my guys.)
And it was meant to be. Just when all the nurseries and garden centers have converted into Christmas tree lots, I happened to stop at Good Earth where I spotted a small bin of pumpkins and, out back, a row of corn stalks ... all of which they practically gave me.
So you see, a Thanksgiving Photo Booth was meant to be. And I even have props ...
It's such a horrible, no good, very bad idea that it has me smiling. A lot.
Here's that idea: a fun, family Thanksgiving photo booth. For goofy photos, family photos, and everything in between.
I can hear my guys groaning already.
But look ... the weather will be a delightful 67 degrees, the trees are in full autumnal glory, and we will be eating outside under a canopy of red, brown, yellow, and orange. So really, how perfect would a Thanksgiving photo booth be?
Am I right, or am I right? (Just don't ask my guys.)
And it was meant to be. Just when all the nurseries and garden centers have converted into Christmas tree lots, I happened to stop at Good Earth where I spotted a small bin of pumpkins and, out back, a row of corn stalks ... all of which they practically gave me.
So you see, a Thanksgiving Photo Booth was meant to be. And I even have props ...
Sunday, November 24, 2019
Speak to Me Sunday: A Modern Parable
This fall weather has been just gorgeous, and so in preparing for a bike ride a few days ago I decided to bring my camera. There is a certain spot along the canal that, if you didn't know better, you would think you were in the rugged wilderness of Colorado. And with the crisp, blue sky and the sun's rays dancing among the trees, I knew it would be a perfect morning for photos.
When I reached the area I wanted to photograph, I got off my bike to walk alongside the canal's edge. I took some pictures, then walked a little further and took some more. Suddenly, a cyclist whirled past me at a high speed, only to come to a screeching halt in a whirlwind of dust. He turned around, and came back toward me.
"Are you okay?" he asked me. "I saw you pushing your bike and thought you might need some help."
Of course, I was perfectly fine, but it didn't escape me that I was experiencing the biblical parable of The Good Samaritan in a very real and modern way.
As far as parables go, it's one that offers drama: a mugging, a near-death, and ultimately the rescue by a kind and caring stranger. Perhaps one of the reasons the parable resonates so well is because all of us, at some time or another, have played all the roles in the story. There have been times we have needed help, other times we have been the source of help, and sometimes (and this may be painful to admit) we have walked on by.
To further complicate matters, life is messy, and in our ongoing quest to find the perfect job, have the perfect marriage, raise perfect children, and develop perfect bodies we do not like to be reminded that, in fact, we are living in an imperfect world. We don't want to be in the position to need help, or to complicate our lives by becoming involved, or to face moral decisions of what is the right thing to do.
When I reached the area I wanted to photograph, I got off my bike to walk alongside the canal's edge. I took some pictures, then walked a little further and took some more. Suddenly, a cyclist whirled past me at a high speed, only to come to a screeching halt in a whirlwind of dust. He turned around, and came back toward me.
"Are you okay?" he asked me. "I saw you pushing your bike and thought you might need some help."
Of course, I was perfectly fine, but it didn't escape me that I was experiencing the biblical parable of The Good Samaritan in a very real and modern way.
As far as parables go, it's one that offers drama: a mugging, a near-death, and ultimately the rescue by a kind and caring stranger. Perhaps one of the reasons the parable resonates so well is because all of us, at some time or another, have played all the roles in the story. There have been times we have needed help, other times we have been the source of help, and sometimes (and this may be painful to admit) we have walked on by.
To further complicate matters, life is messy, and in our ongoing quest to find the perfect job, have the perfect marriage, raise perfect children, and develop perfect bodies we do not like to be reminded that, in fact, we are living in an imperfect world. We don't want to be in the position to need help, or to complicate our lives by becoming involved, or to face moral decisions of what is the right thing to do.
Ever since his election Pope Francis has said that he prefers a Church which is bruised and dirty from having been out on the streets; that we need to come out of our comfort zones – leave our schools, churches and homes – and go out to confront illness, poverty, ignorance, injustice, prejudice, pain. All those elements of humanity which are messy. All those things which make people not experiencing them, uncomfortable. Offended, even.
Which is why the parable of The Good Samaritan reads like a modern-day how-to manual on what it means to truly love our neighbor.
In the end, I was grateful this morning that I didn't need help from my kind Samaritan, but I was also very, very touched that he didn't know that but went out of his way to stop anyway. And because he stopped, two strangers spent a few minutes talking, sharing, and marveling at the beautiful sunrise over the Savannah River.Wednesday, November 20, 2019
Sunday, November 17, 2019
Speak to Me Sunday: The Flood and the Cross
Carissimi,
And now I will tell
you about the horrible flooding in Florence. It’s a disaster. The whole world
is sending help, especially for the precious works of art that have been
damaged by water and mud. On television, I saw them carrying out paintings by
Sandro Botticelli, Fra Filippo Lippi, and Domenico Ghirlandaio. It breaks my
heart.
-Nonna, in a letter to my parents, November 1966 (translated
from Italian)
I wasn’t yet born when Nonna wrote my parents about the
horrific events of November 4, 1966 when, due to unusually heavy rainfall, the
Arno River flooded the city of Florence. By the time the waters receded 5,000 people
were left homeless, 6,000 stores were forced out of business, and 600,000 tons
of mud, rubble and sewage damaged and destroyed millions of masterpieces of
art, rare books, maps, historic documents, and manuscripts. The world
responded quickly, and Angeli del Fango (Mud Angels) arrived
from around the world to help with the rescue and eventual restoration of
precious artwork and antique books.
The event took hold in the hearts of many, so much so that
as a little girl I often heard stories about the 1966 flood, mostly from my Nonna who still got emotional describing the amazing (and often heroic) efforts to rescue masterpieces that, ultimately, belong to the world.
I was reminded of her stories this past September when I was
exploring the Santa Croce Basilica in the heart of Florence. While I had
entered the church with the intention of seeing the tombs of Michelangelo,
Dante, Machiavelli, and Galileo, it was
the crucifix by Cimabue which fascinated me the most because that masterpiece
became the symbol of Florence’s post-flood period of recovery.
In 1966, when the
flood waters broke down the church doors and the basilica was filled with water, many
precious works of art were damaged … including this precious crucifix painted
in 1275 by Cimabue for the Franciscan order. When rescuers entered the church, the surface of the crucifix was covered in water, mud, and oil;
the base was damaged; and there were deep gouges in the wood. Additionally, Cimabue
had used distemper to coat the wooden crucifix, and nearly 60% of it was
chipped off.
Amazingly, when a local priest entered the church the next
day in a small rowboat, he noticed flecks of paint floating in the water. Upon
realizing they were from the precious crucifix, he directed volunteers to
collect the floating specks. Subsequently, during the 10-year restoration
project it was these rescued pieces that greatly helped with the restoration
and, in 1979, Cimabue’s restored cross was returned to the Santa Croce
Basilica.
This month marked the 50th anniversary of this
terrible flood, and having just returned from Italy where I saw Cimabue’s
cross, it is sobering that now there is yet another flood making
headlines—this time in Venice. I was just there, and now St. Mark’s Basilica,
where I attended Mass, is flooded; St. Mark’s Square, where we spent our
evenings listening to music, is now closed to the public.
The same peaceful waters that offered us gentle passage for our gondolas on an evening just before sunset, are now turbulent and dangerous.
I recently came across a quote from author Toni Morrison in
which she says all water has perfect memory and is trying to get back to where
it was. Maybe she was referring to the
fact that you can’t hold water; you can contain it, for a while, but it can’t
be held because while we see it as something that is the same, it is never
the same as it was a moment ago.
The waves, the tides, the endless ebb and flow along the
shore will come. Again and again. Sometimes quietly, sometimes ferociously. In Florence. In Venice. Anywhere in the world.
And so, like those paint specks floating on the water, we pick
up the pieces and put them together again.
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